Find A Finger, Try Not to Point It
Sandy Brewer, 4-15-08
In this current 24/7 political news-cycle world of “he said, she said” it’s amazing that we haven’t all gone mad. But it is a perfect snapshot of a dysfunctional family/relationship, and how to abdicate personal responsibility.
Republican or Democrat, Libertarian or Independent, how we live our personal lives will reflect in our public ones. We don’t have to be featured on MSNBC or CNN, our even any of the morning shows to have established our true values and to take personal responsibility for our choices.
If I want a relationship, I have to take responsibility – not blame – for the ways in which I have used relationships to reflect my doubts, self-esteem that is too low, arrogance that is too high, desperation which automatically disempowers. I could always blame the other guy for my current situations; I could continue to be upset about every jerk I’ve ever dated (it couldn’t have been me, could it?); or I could go all pundit clone and relentlessly play the irritating and irresponsible “he said/she said” card.
Here are the real facts. If you want your future to be different than your past, you have to be willing to change the way you respond to situations and circumstances in the now. If you’ve been dating – or marrying – jerks, you have to be willing to comprehend how your choices are a mirror of your own doubts, judgments, and self-esteem. We all have the power to choose, and we all have the power to change.
Or we could just run for political office and practice our finger pointing.
Sandy Brewer, Author, Pursuit of Light, an Extraordinary Journey
