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Rob writes:
Hi Sandy, I have been on a truth quest for about a year now. I have read the book and watched the video "The Secret" many, many times. I am really trying to focus on the positive of life. However, that negative seems to creep into my mind on a daily basis. I have not had much positive change happen for me. In fact, I seem more frustrated now than ever before. What advise could you give me at this point in time? Any words of wisdom would be appreciated. Thank you rob
Sandy Writes:
Dear Rob,
The Law of Attraction has been so in the forefront that we have, as a collective, tended to ignore the Law of Resistance. Technically, of course, they are not laws at all, but extraordinary principles which, when applied with conscious intent, can alter the course of our lives.
The first thing for you to know is that when a negative thought or feeling comes up, it does not mean you are doing something wrong. If you resist the feeling, you will only intensify it, for that which you resist you will attract.
So, put the negative feeling on the table - right out there in front of God and everybody. Do not attach a story - that will only drag you into the sludge pot of the past. For instance, perhaps a negative feeling you have is I'm not enough, or nobody really likes me, or I never get noticed. Acknowledge that feeling, but make it a simple, complete statement with a period. Don't say, "Joey hasn't called me back for three days and after all that I've done for him and look how many times I've been there for him and he's got a lot of nerve... and on and on. "I feel unimportant and that's an old feeling" - is all that you have to acknowledge.
Once you have taken your judgment and story off the feeling, then you can say to yourself, "This feeling, this chemical reaction that I am having in my body, is not who I am. It is just a feeling. It's a feeling which my brain is cross-referencing with an old wound or insecurity. Having the feeling come up does not make me wrong. It does, however, give me an opportunity to experience the power of choice. I get to choose whether or not this chemical reaction we call a feeling is a statement about me or not. I get to choose a greater truth."
Then reach for a statement of truth greater than the illusion of doubt and separation. What if you really are one with a Goodness that has no opposite? What if your experiences do not define you, unless you say so? What if the Light within you is so much greater than the challenging places through which you have journeyed?
You have the ability to reach out to you with compassion and kindness. You have the ability to practice and practice until, whether you agree with yourself and your position or not, you always look at yourself through the eyes of love. But please remember, the celebration of you does not come through the suppression of a feeling. It comes through the recognition that the feeling simply gives you information about an old idea you are holding on to. You have the power to redefine yourself in context of any place that you have been and to know the greatness and wonderful potential of you in the now.
Camus wrote one of my favorite quotes. He said, "In the midst of winter I have found within me an invincible summer." On your most challenging day, the light within you shines. Remember it, even on the days when you can't feel it.
Blessings to you -- with love and a light heart,
Sandy
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