An Ask Sandy Question
An Ask Sandy question:
Lydia writes:
I read your book, Pursuit of Light, An Extraordinary Journey…I couldn’t put it down actually. Every part of your story reached out to me and each chapter left me more and more empowered. My father died after a long illness while he was still in his twenties and my 24 year old mother was left with four children to raise on her own. We were all traumatized. I am the oldest. I have some “blanks” in my childhood memories, but have done a tremendous amount of work on myself. My transformation has been physical, spiritual and emotional. Still, there is an underlying anxiety that lives in my guts, and I have to fight hard not to fall back into old addictions and cravings. I am successful in that, but it is often not easy. I am a mother, a wife and a licensed clinical social worker, and my goal is to always learn more and give more.
Dear Lydia,
The problem of incomplete memories that you discussed is a challenge not because it's specifically necessary to remember everything, but because the blocked memories, in fact all experiences, involve frequencies – think radio waves – and the way the brain records them. When the anxiety churns your stomach, what is actually getting triggered is an unconscious connector or frequency which has been hard wired into your system as an old identity – a place of emptiness/incompleteness/not enough-ness. In that hard-wiring there is a defense or survival mechanism that in the past provided a temporary anesthetic to cover the underlying emotion from which you were trying to protect yourself. Being aware that the craving is based on an unconscious connection to an old point of view about yourself can be helpful. Remember, it isn't necessary – although it can be helpful – to identify what the emotion is, but it is always essential to re-identify what the craving/distraction means. It is your body responding to an old idea about you that is not now and never was true.
What’s a greater thought about you? Think it! Better yet, work towards feeling it.
Know that you are the observer and that all frequency/energy at its core is neutral.
It was a difficult choice for me to write the parts of my book which reference the past as raw and authentically as I did because I was aware it could inspire many, but also trigger unresolved things in some. Yet the subtlety of writing it this way was to offer a model for not sanitizing one's experiences, but releasing and transcending them through a greater recognition and wisdom. It's never about needing to over analyze or over revisit the past. And it is never about pain and suffering. But to consistently back away from the energy and scenarios that represent our past is to live in fear of that frequency which will then find a way to take form and rattle our little cages in the now! We don't change our lives or our world by sanitizing the past or cruel and challenging conditions. We create change by gaining strength, courage, wisdom, and conviction through looking the situation (or frequency) in the eye and insisting that it does not name us. For indeed, unless we say so, it does not. As you know, wherever it is that we have been pales in comparison to the core of who we are today.
Love,
Sandy
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I invite you to see my book review that was presented by KUSI News San Diego http://www.kusi.com/news/goodmorning/15983977.html?video=YHI&t=a
