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Forgiveness

Dear Friends,

  Forgiveness must come from the heart and not the head. When I can look at that part of my life and those that did me wrong and be able to say ‘between you and me there is peace now, because you no longer have the power over me to control my thoughts or my feelings or my life’.

  Many people perpetuate the negative feelings they have about their past. They are unable to forgive the ones that hurt them, choosing instead to remember the past. Not only do they blame their tormenters, but they blame themselves, as well.

  Forgiveness is the proactive force needed to find the peace you seek in your life. Without forgiveness, your life is locked in a dark place often leading to depression or drug dependency. Forgive the people who have hurt you. Make the choice to leave the past in the past. They no longer have control over what you do, how you think, or the choices you make. Your life is your own. Most importantly, forgive yourself. Throughout your life, you believed you were to blame for the torment you suffered. That is a common feeling for an abused child, but as an adult, you must realize you were not to blame. Discover your self-worth and know that you are deserving of love and fulfillment.

  Allow your heart to tell you it is okay, taking forgiveness to the next level. Help yourself grow beyond your past, be kind to yourself and do not judge.

Love,

Sandy

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Chioce: An Introduction from PURSUIT OF LIGHT

An Introduction Excerpt from the Best-selling Memoir, Pursuit of Light, An Extraordinary Journey. 

Dear Friends,

  "Life is about choice.

  "Victor Frankl lost his family and freedom in the Holocaust. Yet, in the midst of that horror, he discovered within himself an emotional perspective – an attitude or core awareness – that sustained him through his darkest hours. He chose that new attitude and managed to survive both physically and emotionally. He changed the way he viewed what was happening to him, and with that shift created a new emotional reality. He saw and experienced himself greater than his circumstance. So great was his internal change – the way he viewed his reality – that when he emerged from the hell of a concentration camp, he established a second family and founded the branch of psychiatry known today as existentialism. Now that’s an attitudinal shift!

  "Like Victor Frankl, we all must choose. Choice requires picking a point of view and understanding that one inherently has the capacity to do so. It is a birthright that we all need to claim. In fact, consciously choosing is imperative because once any individual changes a point of view, that person also changes his or her reality. Contrary to popular opinion, reality is not carved in stone. It’s based on personal opinion. That’s how three people can be in the same room at the same time, dialoguing on the same subject, and yet be experiencing three different realities all based on the exact same factual data. Simply put, personal reality – or how one experiences what we call reality – is not limited to a narrow definition of the facts, but rather the way one emotionally experiences them.

  "The secret to establishing a sense of joy, possibility and freedom is pretty basic: dissolve the attachment to pain and suffering.

  "No, the facts don’t have to change. But attitudes do.

  "Personal reality is created by personal attitude. Bottom line? Attitude – the way we frame the conversations in our head – is everything."  © 2007, Sandy Brewer, Pursuit of Light, An Extraordinary Journey.

Love,

Sandy

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